The internet has changed the way we communicate today. In the early days of the Internet, many of us used to meet random girls on the Instant Messengers trying to start off a relationship with an unknown girl. However, things have changed a lot since then and we have a flurry of social network sites where we get to meet a lot of girls, look at their profile and secretly seeking their attention to strike a conversation with them. More often than that people ask if it is really easy for start a conversation with an unknown girl online. The answer is yes i.e., if you know what it takes. Here are some of the effective ways to go about starting a conversation with a girl. And, yes it involves a bit of work. Are you ready? Here we go:
Google is the ultimate source of information about people who have one or more profiles on social network sites. A search on Google will reveal quite a few things you may have not have found directly on their social profiles because many people don’t reveal much of their information on their social profiles. Gather as much info about her as you can because it will help you shape your conversation with her when you get a chance to.
Stalk Her on Facebook
Stalking has acquired a negative perception over the times. However, with positive intentions, you may want to discover more about her background, hobbies and interests etc. Depending on her privacy settings, you may also get access to her photo albums and/or take a tour around her timeline and figure out what she is like before you do anything to get her attention. You might as well want to express your appreciate for her by liking her photos or witty comments she may have left on Facebook.
While you’re at it, just don’t follow a pattern – it takes time for her to like you so you really need to know how to go about doing it without appearing too desperate. Remember, you want to build an impression. Don’t send her a friend request right away. Don’t subscribe to her profile updates in a hurry either. Just wait for her updates and like them once in a while. To appear natural, you can try liking the comments of other friends on her profile too. While you’re trying your best to win her attention, make sure profile doesn’t look messy when she stalks your profile secretly.
You may want to delete any inappropriate comments you may have left here and there recently. Remove any photos that might create a wrong impression of you. Also, it makes sense to work on your profile description in a manner to come across smart and impressive to her.
Search Her Profile on LinkedIn
LinkedIn is essentially a professional network and unlike Facebook, it’s an ideal place where she is likely to accept your request here. You may still want to craft your request giving a good reason as to why you want to connect to her there. Before that you may want to polish your LinkedIn profile and look more professional to her. If she accepts your request, you may have access to her Gmail address. But don’t do anything silly as yet. Depending on her career interests, you may want to introduce her to discussions on LinkedIn which she will thank you for. This will go a long way to build an impression.
Send Her a Chat Request
Assuming you get her Gmail address from LinkedIn, try sending an email to her sharing a something useful to her. It could be a funny video or song or an article which she may really appreciate. I assume you have done your work on her tastes and interests. Since she knows you somewhat well by now, she is more likely to reply to your emails and eventually a chat request as well.
Be Yourself and Polite
When you get a chance to chat with her, be a good listener. Be yourself yet polite to her. The last thing you want is go overboard and end up asking inappropriate questions. Try to appear interested in what they are saying. Show curiosity in what they are talking about. Don’t be too impulsive or interrogative – try to know her from her conversation and build your talk accordingly. Online chatting is an art and it comes to you with deeper understanding of human psychology. Many people hold a sceptical perception towards others appearing interested in them. Just be natural and you should be fine.
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