How to Start a Conversation with an Unknown Girl Online


The internet has changed the way we communicate today. In the early days of the Internet, many of us used to meet random girls on the Instant Messengers trying to start off a relationship with an unknown girl. However, things have changed a lot since then and we have a flurry of social network sites where we get to meet a lot of girls, look at their profile and secretly seeking their attention to strike a conversation with them. More often than that people ask if it is really easy for start a conversation with an unknown girl online. The answer is yes i.e., if you know what it takes. Here are some of the effective ways to go about starting a conversation with a girl. And, yes it involves a bit of work. Are you ready? Here we go:

Google Her

Google is the ultimate source of information about people who have one or more profiles on social network sites. A search on Google will reveal quite a few things you may have not have found directly on their social profiles because many people don’t reveal much of their information on their social profiles. Gather as much info about her as you can because it will help you shape your conversation with her when you get a chance to.

Stalk Her on Facebook

Stalking has acquired a negative perception over the times. However, with positive intentions, you may want to discover more about her background, hobbies and interests etc. Depending on her privacy settings, you may also get access to her photo albums and/or take a tour around her timeline and figure out what she is like before you do anything to get her attention. You might as well want to express your appreciate for her by liking her photos or witty comments she may have left on Facebook.

While you’re at it, just don’t follow a pattern – it takes time for her to like you so you really need to know how to go about doing it without appearing too desperate. Remember, you want to build an impression. Don’t send her a friend request right away. Don’t subscribe to her profile updates in a hurry either. Just wait for her updates and like them once in a while. To appear natural, you can try liking the comments of other friends on her profile too. While you’re trying your best to win her attention, make sure profile doesn’t look messy when she stalks your profile secretly.

You may want to delete any inappropriate comments you may have left here and there recently. Remove any photos that might create a wrong impression of you. Also, it makes sense to work on your profile description in a manner to come across smart and impressive to her.

Search Her Profile on LinkedIn

LinkedIn is essentially a professional network and unlike Facebook, it’s an ideal place where she is likely to accept your request here. You may still want to craft your request giving a good reason as to why you want to connect to her there. Before that you may want to polish your LinkedIn profile and look more professional to her. If she accepts your request, you may have access to her Gmail address. But don’t do anything silly as yet. Depending on her career interests, you may want to introduce her to discussions on LinkedIn which she will thank you for. This will go a long way to build an impression.

Send Her a Chat Request

Assuming you get her Gmail address from LinkedIn, try sending an email to her sharing a something useful to her. It could be a funny video or song or an article which she may really appreciate. I assume you have done your work on her tastes and interests. Since she knows you somewhat well by now, she is more likely to reply to your emails and eventually a chat request as well.

Be Yourself and Polite

When you get a chance to chat with her, be a good listener. Be yourself yet polite to her. The last thing you want is go overboard and end up asking inappropriate questions. Try to appear interested in what they are saying. Show curiosity in what they are talking about. Don’t be too impulsive or interrogative – try to know her from her conversation and build your talk accordingly. Online chatting is an art and it comes to you with deeper understanding of human psychology. Many people hold a sceptical perception towards others appearing interested in them. Just be natural and you should be fine.

If you want to know more about how to pursue a girl online, here is an interesting discussion for you.



How to get rid of Premature Ejaculation

4 Leading Causes of Premature Ejaculation

It’s extremely helpful to understand the top causes of premature ejaculation (PE). If you are aware of the main underlying causes of PE, then all you have to do is systematically address those issues, and you’ll be well on your way to lasting longer in bed.

Cause #1: Mother Nature

That’s right. The truth is, we’ve evolved as rapid-fire lovers. And actually, it’s not just us humans. Most mammals only last 3-15 seconds in the sack, whereas the average man lasts 2 to 6 minutes. The reason for this is that quick ejaculation helps to ensure that you’ll “plant your seed,” so to speak.

The takeaway here is that it’s a common short-coming across nearly the entire Animal Kingdom. So don’t let it get you down too much. Just take that with a grain of salt and focus on what you can do about it.

Cause #2: Poor Masturbation Habits

Another leading cause of premature ejaculation is poor masturbation habits. Once you think about it, this one makes a lot of sense. When you’re doing it alone, there’s no reason to prolong it. And as a result, you are training yourself to get it over with as soon as possible. Then, when it comes time for the big event, you haven’t developed the ability to control yourself and last as long as you’d like.

Cause #3: Too Much, Too Fast

If you don’t control your arousal, it’ll control you. In other words, if you get right into the action right away, your body will be on edge and ready to finish up before you are. If you want to last longer, take it slow.

Cause #4: Lack of Mind Control

The final leading cause of premature ejaculation is the presence of negative thoughts, fears, and anxieties about sex.  If you’re super self-conscious about how long you’ll last, you’re automatically putting yourself in a negative mindset, and you’re setting yourself up for failure. Instead, you need to visualize success, stay positive, remain confident, and focus on what’s really important: the intimacy of the moment and the happiness of your partner.

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How to get a job

getting-a-jobThe first step is to be aware of all the myths of job hunting. Don’t write a résumé. A résumé is a huge waste of time. People don’t get jobs from résumés. A résumé is not a market- ing device, and it doesn’t sell you. It is a dumb piece of paper that a manager can use to toss you out of the running.

Consider this: You send your résumé to five hundred com- panies and it sits on a manager’s desk while he decides whether he wants to interview you. Meanwhile, my candidate is sitting in the manager’s office talking to him about how he’s going to help the manager produce profit and contribute to the bottom line.

The difference between a job hunter who uses a résumé and a job hunter who uses and cultivates personal contacts in his in- dustry and in the company he is interested in is simple: One gets the job and one doesn’t. Sorry to be so blunt about it, but that is the way the world works.

No résumé?

When you write a résumé, you are working with a ridiculous premise: that going after a lot of companies is a good thing. You might as well go buy a lottery ticket, because it doesn’t work that way.

You need to go out and pick a small handful of companies that ring your bells, that excite you, the leaders, the shining lights of the industry that you want to work in. Life is short, so why waste time with anything else?

Use the Internet, go to the library and talk to the reference librarian. Study the company’s business. Study its competition. Look at the problems and challenges it is facing, then sit down and ask yourself, “How can I go into this company and help contribute to the bottom line?” If you don’t take a profit-based approach, you’re wasting your time. You’re then just another job candidate; you’re just another résumé; you’re just another person coming in the door.

Once you’ve figured out what you can bring to the com- pany’s bottom line, put together a little business plan. A busi- ness plan basically says, “This is how I would do this job in a way that would be effective and profitable for your business.” What you do then is talk with people who work in the com- pany and people who do business with that company.

When you put this business plan together, it indicates that you know about the business, so find out all you can. Talk with vendors, customers, and people who are involved in industry groups that relate to the company. You need to understand what is going on within the organization.

Bingo, now you have something that is better than a ré- sumé. You now have contacts.

People love to talk

People love to talk about their business. As you start to get that insight you learn a lot. That leads you to talk to more people. “Well, gee, who else do you recommend I talk to in the company regarding the marketing department?” This is how you get in the door.

This is how a headhunter helps his own candidate get in the door. It’s all about personal contacts, but not about goofy, mercenary networking. It’s all about establishing a credible in- terest in the business and in helping the business. Never ask di- rectly for a job lead—you’ll just be referred to the HR department.

Once you get in the door and make these contacts, you can start to make your business plan. Now you can get in to talk to a manager because you’ve been referred by someone who rec- ognizes that you may be able to bring some value to the operation.

Then what?

You call the manager who has an open position and say, “I’ve been talking with so-and-so and so-and-so and they’ve pointed out to me that your operation is growing. I understand that two key problems or challenges that you are facing may be these; correct me if I’m wrong.

“But I’ve really been trying to study your business and I was wondering if you could give me a little more insight into where your business is going and where you think you might need some help.”

If you approach them in an arrogant and presumptuous way, they will blow you off. If you approach them by saying, “So-and-so suggested that I give you a call,” that opens up the door. If you feel awkward and don’t want to come off as pre- sumptuous, you say, “So-and-so suggested that I give you a call. I have an interest in your business. I don’t send out résumés because I’m not out actively looking for a job, but I’ve got a great interest in your company.” Now you have three or four names to drop if you’ve done your homework right.

When you get there

Let the manager talk a little bit. Ask for a twenty-minute meeting. “Would you have twenty minutes for me to stop by so I can get a little more insight into your operation?” Not many managers get phone calls like that.

If you really want to be bold, you say to the manager, “Look, I know you might think that I’m coming to you from out of left field, and if I seem like a know-it-all, please pardon me, but I’ve spent quite a bit of time trying to get a sense of how I might be able to contribute something to your opera- tion and I’ve put together a business plan.

“It’s a fifteen-minute presentation. If you’ve got fifteen minutes for me, I’d like to come by your office. If after five minutes you don’t like what I have to say, stop me and I’ll leave, no questions asked. I’m not here to waste your time, I’m here because I think I can help you out.”

If after that a manager blows you off, it’s probably not a place you want to work at, anyway.

Be prepared

You should go up to the white board and write down the answers to what I call the four questions. You need to demon- strate that you understand the work that needs to be done. Question one is, “What problems or challenges is the company facing?”

Question two is, “Can I do the work?” You need to show how you are going to go about doing it.

Question three is, “Can I do the work the way the company wants it done?” In other words, how does it fit into their culture, the way they operate, the way they think? It’s got to be a fit.

The final question is, “Can I contribute to the bottom line?” Draw a line on the bottom of the board and write a number, which is your best estimate of what you think you can add to the bottom line as a result of doing the job your way.

Your number can be wildly off, but if you can justify how you came up with it you will impress a smart manager.

That is when you look the manager in the eye and you don’t just say, “Thank you for the meeting,” you say, “I want to come and work for your team.”

The job offer

There are two parts to every job offer. There is the work and there is the compensation. Say to the manager, “We’ve just es- tablished that you want me to work here and I want to work here. Now all that remains is for us to work out the terms.” You can make a commitment without getting yourself stuck.

You need to ask yourself three questions before you to ne- gotiate for a job. One, what kind of money would you take to do this job that would make you accept the offer and say, “This is cool, I’ll take it.” Two, what kind of money would you take that would make you say, “I’ll take the job on the spot.”

The best thing to do is to leave some money on the table. The third question is how much money would make you jump through the roof with sheer joy. Come up with those three numbers; your objective is to get a number between the second and the third.

If you get a good offer and say, “I bet I can get a little more,” you’re toast. If you get a good offer, take it. If you want more, justify it on your first review.

Avoid mistakes

Get a hold of those stupid questions that everybody asks, like, “What animal would you be?” and “What is your favorite color?” There are books out there that have them listed, along with the right answers. Bring them with you and if the manager starts in on them, bring them out and say, “You have all the questions, I have all the answers, so let’s roll up our sleeves and get to business.”

Most people, when looking for a job, don’t analyze the job market. Here’s the news: Downsizing is up. Seven thousand laid off at a transportation company. A bank cans two thou- sand. An airline boots four thousand. A communications com- pany drops eighty-five hundred. Jobless claims are on a seesaw ride. The state of the job market makes people worry, and that makes them terrible job hunters.

Headhunters couldn’t care less what the job market is doing. Their power stems from their ability to solve a com- pany’s problem. They look for employers who need help. When downsizing results in masses of people changing jobs, compa- nies rely on headhunters even more, because it’s harder to weed through all those desperate, inappropriate candidates when you’re trying to fill a few important positions. In many cases, the same companies that are firing people out one door are hiring people through another and paying fees for help in doing so.

Don’t waste time fretting over the news. If headhunters did that, they’d go out of business. Spend your time finding man- agers who have work that needs to be done. Don’t make as- sumptions about what jobs are or are not available.

People also spend way too much time poring over the want ads. Job hunters look at the online job boards (or the classi- fieds) and see opportunities beckoning. Headhunters see a big sump, where the troublesome masses collect and spiral away. And that’s where headhunters like to see their competition: out of the way, getting processed by personnel jockeys.

When I lived near San Francisco, I had to explain to my frequent east coast guests that the one place they hoped to visit was the one place we would avoid: Fisherman’s Wharf. Like the job boards, Fisherman’s Wharf is a sump. It’s the place San Francisco has set aside to corral loud, unruly, bothersome tourists. It keeps them off the streets. And the city goes to great lengths to convince outsiders that this is the best place to go when you visit.

No self-respecting San Franciscan would waste his or her time at Fisherman’s Wharf. It’s a pit. So are the job databases. When five thousand people apply for a job, the job is hardly “available.” Simple statistics will tell you that even an out- standing candidate can slip through the cracks while unsophis- ticated personnel jockeys are screening thousands of applicants. (And that’s before they get around to actually interviewing a few hundred.)

Like that little postcard says, “Thank you for submitting your résumé. We are currently evaluating your qualifications. Due to the large number of responses, we will not be able to get back to you any time soon. If ever.”

Do you really consider that job available? Go buy a lottery ticket. The other reason these jobs are not really available is be- cause while personnel is reading résumés, some headhunter has met with the hiring manager, submitted three candidates, and is helping one of them evaluate an offer. Personnel doesn’t even know this is happening. Beep! Time’s up. On to the next résumé database.


How to know if your wife is cheating on you

wife-cheatingOur job is to get people proof of what is going on. What we do is work with our clients to try to determine what they suspect is going on, and try to identify any opportunities

that we have to catch a cheating spouse in the act. Usually by the time someone calls us, the suspicions have mounted so much that they think they know, but they just can’t prove it. It’s not tangible, but all the signs are there.

Something is very wrong in the relationship. It is our experience that cheaters will almost never fess up to

cheating unless they are confronted. The reasoning is very sim- ple. If they are having an affair and it’s just for the thrill of the sex, then they know that telling their spouse, “Yeah, you know what, I did have an affair and it was because of the thrilling sex,” then things at home will never be the same again. If they’re having an affair because they love someone else and they want to be with that person, but for whatever reason they can’t, then they don’t want any more flack than they can han- dle. They don’t want to fess up for that reason, and they want to keep their fallback position intact.

Read the signs

The biggest thing to look for is changes in the spouse’s per- sonality. Grooming habits are one example, but it’s a long list: change of behavior, weight loss, buying sexy underwear, an un- expected reduction in arguments. Also watch for secretive phone calls. Perhaps they go into the garage to talk on the phone or they go to get milk at nine P.M. and take their phone with them. Maybe the phone bill stops coming to the house, or all of a sudden the phone bill is not itemized. There might be unexplained absences, or absences that were never there before; a lot of overtime but no extra income; ATM withdrawals at strange places.

Watch the office

More than 50 percent of the time the affair is with some- body in the workplace, or somebody who is in the industry. Maybe it’s not someone they work with directly, but a col- league at another firm, or a supplier. It could be someone in the office next door.

Gather evidence

How you gather evidence depends on the case. The most common way to do it is through surveillance. We try to deter- mine, as best we can, when that cheating spouse would have an opportunity to be unfaithful. The better job we can do to nar- row that down, the quicker we can get the information we need. Determine when and where there will be an opportunity for your spouse to be unfaithful and then put them under sur- veillance.

There are some areas where we can use vehicle trackers to see where the spouse is going—to see where their actual car is going. Sometimes we do surveillance with one of these devices,

which are pretty much GPS devices that show where the car is at all times. However, you can only use them in those jurisdic- tions where it is legal.

Be very aware of the law. You can’t just go around slapping vehicle trackers on cars. However, in many jurisdictions where there is an ownership interest—where both spouses have a right to use the car—you can leave a gym bag containing a tracker in your spouse’s car and it’s perfectly legal.

Some states specifically prohibit that, but in others it is an excellent tool to use. In Massachusetts it is okay to use a vehi- cle tracker. In Michigan it is okay to track anybody with a ve- hicle tracker. (You could slap it on the governor’s car because there is not yet a law on the books that prohibits that.) In Cal- ifornia using an electronic device of any kind to track some- body’s whereabouts is a crime. Each jurisdiction is different; make yourself aware of your local laws before attempting any of these tactics.

Look online

So you think you know everything about your spouse, but little did you know that she has a new identity online, and she’s meeting people and doing things you had no idea she was capable of.

Now a lot of people say, “Well, I put her name in Google and I hit return and I didn’t find anything about her except her work information.” But if you do a very deep Internet search you can locate old documents by cross-referencing any number of things from her past. You can find identities online and try to find out if she is involved in any online communities.

Sometimes you’ll find even the silliest things, like she is posting romantic stories, thinking that they are completely anonymous. Internet profiling, as we call it, can be a handy tool if you can spend a lot of time online. Companies like eHarmony are making money hand over fist because people are looking for romantic help online.

Keep notes

Try to document some of what is going on. For instance, say you and your wife were going to meet at home at 5 P.M. and she doesn’t show up until 7:45 P.M. and her cell phone was off. She says, “Oh, my gosh, I didn’t know it was off. I left you a message. You didn’t get my message?” When she does some- thing that doesn’t make sense, write it down, and then look for patterns in her behavior.

Try to be objective when you are doing this. When you are going through this, it’s very easy to say, “You know what, maybe I am just making this up.” That’s where you will lose track of all the things that led you to feel the way that you feel. Go with your gut. If you have a true reason to be skeptical of your spouse, don’t expect the logical explanation or you will drive yourself crazy.

Like I said before, if they are cheating, they won’t tell you they’re cheating. If they aren’t cheating, they won’t tell you they are cheating. So you’ll hear either, “I’m not cheating,” or “I’m not cheating.” You can’t believe it either way.

What to avoid

Never, ever mention anything about a private investigator, or threaten to watch your spouse more closely. Once a cheat- ing spouse hears those words, they will modify their behavior, sometimes to the point that they can’t be caught.

That’s not to say that there aren’t people who get scared by that threat and stop what they are doing, but the vast majority will continue. If you go that route, there is absolutely no ben- efit to making the threat. All you will do is retard your ability to investigate the situation and find the truth.

5 Signs Which Tell You Your Wife Is Cheating

  1. She is not looking for physical intimacy with you
  2. She seems overly preoccupied with her cell phone
  3. She works late hours in the office
  4. She no longer pesters you to go out
  5. She cannot account for many of her actions

How to last longer in bed

last-longer-in-bedThe key to lasting longer is to distract myself but stay in the moment by talking dirty to my girl and telling her to not have an orgasm, which helps me to not have one. It takes my mind off of the physical sensitivity. I’ll also move into a new position if I begin to get too sensitive. Yet, I’ve never tried thinking of something else entirely, like that old adage to “think about baseball.”

For men, I recommend desensitizing yourself by having more oral sex. Men have to get through a lot of initial sen- sitivity to get into what I call “cock shock,” where they are still sensitive but not too sensitive—then they can do it for hours.

If you start to get too sensitive you can slow down, and the less verbal your partner is, the easier this is. When you hear how good it feels for your partner, it’s hard to not keep push- ing forward.

Numbing lotions and penis rings can help, too. They’re not dangerous if you follow the manufacturer’s instructions.

Take care of yourself

I used to masturbate any time I was going to have sex—but when I did I would get as close as possible, then I would stop and keep myself on the edge by staying as close as possible for about half an hour to get used to holding back. You have to work with it and find what works for you.

Also, stopping the thrusting will help you stave off orgasm. It’s best to change the motion to decrease the sensitivity; again, find what works for you. While you’re resting, use any form of foreplay on her to keep her going.

You also have to talk with your partner. It’s a compliment to your partner to tell her that what she’s doing is really working and that you want the experience to last longer. Just tell her— honest and open communication is not only necessary for a great experience, but it can be really sexy.

If you have no problem getting hard after the first erection you might want to just get your first orgasm out of the way be- cause you will last longer the second time. I say have as many as you can!

Find what works

Find what works for you—know which position really works for you and which can help you just maintain a good pace. As long as you and your partner are on the same page, it doesn’t really matter—it’s more about satisfying each other, so time is not the most important thing. It should never feel like an Olympic event.

It would also help if you will stop focusing on lasting longer or having orgasms during sex because it may just add up pressure on your part. Just relax and enjoy every moment.


How to get a woman to date you


Getting a girl interested in you, well, that’s sort of easy, really. A guy who wants to attract me has to seem in charge and not be a pushover. All of us want a man who is in

control—not an asshole, but a guy who is cool and confident. It’s hard to get turned on by a guy who is not taking charge, but very easy to get hot for a guy who runs the show.

Look sharp

I love my man to look good, so clothes are important to me, but I’m much happier when the guy is naked.

I like a lot of looks, including a nice-fitting business suit. That turns me on. Just about everybody looks hot in a suit. Jeans and a white T-shirt work, too, especially on a lazy week- end lying around together.

Grooming is important, and not just in the obvious places. It’s really important for a guy who wants to get with me to be trimmed neatly down there.

Tweezed eyebrows is too much. Have you been to L.A.? That’s the least that the guys do here. They have perfect bod- ies and tans, wear makeup, and sometimes smell better than most girls that I know. That might be a bit too groomed.

Be funny

It’s extremely important that a guy be funny. Who wants to hang around with a miserable person? If a guy is cool and can make me laugh, I’ll probably want to go that extra mile for him to please him. Just don’t make me laugh when we’re in bed be- cause that will kind of ruin it for me.

I go over the top all the time; I’m still young and can get away with it, and I like my man to be the same. I just don’t want to bang a comedian.

Does money matter?

It doesn’t take cash to impress me. I see guys with cash all the time and they bore me, so if you’re on a budget, just do the little things, like make sure your clothes and hair are washed and you smell clean. That’s a total turn-on regardless of what a guy wears. A rich guy in a suit with dirty hair or body odor will never get near me.

When to give up

It can be hard to tell the difference between hard to get and “leave me alone.” But I’ll let you in on a little secret: I really don’t think that any girl is out of reach for most guys. Most girls want sex just as much as men do, but we don’t always let on.

If you fade away after your first approach, then you aren’t worth shit. Come back and hit me baby one more time. Be assertive and confident (but not a pest).

Just walk up to the girl and try to strike up a conversa- tion, but don’t use any stupid lines. A good approach, espe- cially in a big city, is, “Hey, I’m new to the city and I think you’re really cute and I’m just looking for somebody cool to go out to dinner and to the movies.” Believe me when I tell you that most chicks will jump at a guy who can deliver this kind of line.

Don’t forget to smile, be friendly, and remember to shave your balls.

Bad boys, bad boys

Girls love the thrill off trying to calm a wild boy. But it doesn’t usually take us long to realize we’re better off starting with a good guy in the first place instead of wasting our time trying to change someone.

Girls want a guy who is exciting in bed and not a boring bag of bones. Be a man and act like one, and don’t take any shit. Otherwise you’ll end up on the outside looking in at her bang- ing somebody else.

It’s okay to be nice, just don’t let her push you around. Don’t pretend to be some badass motherfucker, but don’t be a wimp, either.

Don’t try too hard

You might want to learn a little something about her before you introduce yourself, but not too much. Usually it’s better to just chat with the girl and figure her out for yourself.

Make her want you. Blow her off every once in a while. Showing a girl that you care way more than she does is too sweet. Slow down and make her want you. Pull back a bit and let her approach you. Don’t cave in so fast by being sweet, be- cause that syrup will drown you.

Guys should realize that all girls really want the same thing. We want a guy who cares about us. Girls want to be loved, too. Women want to be loved back. They want a bit of a hunt without a huge chase and, in the end, they just want security

and reliability. And remember that size doesn’t matter at all—unless it’s to-

tally small. We all like a bit of freak in our gentlemen. Please her well and often and she’s yours forever. Trust me on that one.


How to make someone laugh

It’s hard to pinpoint exactly what will make a woman laugh. A guy has to have a little bit of charm, and you really can’t teach charm.

If you’re trying to be funny, one thing is for sure: Don’t steal my act. Prop comedy just doesn’t translate to funny in social sit- uations, and it’s even hard for other comedians to pull off. I’ve challenged comics to write me a prop and they couldn’t.

Comedians have done plays on words, but writing a visual joke is something else. A rubber chicken isn’t enough. I have to write my own material and make my own props, because no one sells what I need—like the paper-cup-and-string telephone with a third cup for call waiting. I’m happy not only that I have my own style but that I’ve been an original from the very start.

Be real

I think people in general like to laugh at things they can re- late to. It’s about shared experiences or thoughts, and it can be anything.

Here’s a current example: the kid that just had sex with his teacher [the Debra Lafave case]—which is disgusting. Men and women have decidedly different opinions about the humor of that situation. Women think it’s disgusting and guys are like, “Cool, how did that happen?”

I talked about that during a radio interview promoting one of my shows. I said, “I couldn’t find a date, so I had to book a show. How sad, a fourteen-year-old kid in school nailed his teacher. Not only am I not getting any action; I definitely wasn’t getting any when I was fourteen. So, that sucks.”

The guys were laughing, but the girl wasn’t.

“That’s disgusting, though,” the girl said. The guys were still laughing. “But that’s nasty,” she said.

And I said, “I know, it’s nasty. I am just saying it is the truth.” Sometimes the truth is really funny.

The Carrot Top experience

If you really want to get a woman to laugh, just tell her how rotten men are. Women love to hear how stupid we are.

I tell a joke every night in my show specifically about women and the guys laugh. Then the guys say, “Dude, stop! I’m not supposed to laugh at this.” And then I reverse it and say something about men and then the whole crowd goes nuts.

I think the truth is, if you can share the experience of some- thing that has happened to you, people will laugh. All the world is a prop.


How to get dressed for a date

A great general guideline for getting ready for a date is that it’s really all about appropriateness. Figure out the situa- tion you are going to be in, such as where you’re going on the first date. You’re not going to wear the same thing to a picnic

on the beach as you would for a night at the theater. So when you call a day or two before, let your date or girl- friend—if it’s a woman—know what the plan will be for the evening. For guys, when you’re taking that extra time and put- ting some thought into the relationship, your date will really

appreciate your efforts. Going on a date is kind of like going on an interview (well, not exactly)—you want to make the best possible first impression. A good rule of thumb is to overdress just a little bit and always wear a sports jacket.

A sports jacket or a blazer will really dress up any outfit, and once you get inside, like at a restaurant, you can take the blazer

off. A fabulous all-purpose outfit is a casual pair of slacks (not jeans), a relaxed sports coat, a solid watch, and a great pair of loafers. Just no pleats, please, for your slacks, because they make almost everyone look dumpy and fat.

The details, baby

It’s really all about details, details, details. A sharp watch— it doesn’t have to be expensive, just something steel, or even a Swatch—a nice belt, and a great pair of shoes will make any outfit shine.

In the ’90s, we got into a baggy trend, so most guys are not educated as to where an armhole should actually fall. Details of fit are actually very important. The shoulder of the sleeve should end at your shoulder or fall just a little bit over your shoulder. Your shirt or sweater should look like it’s made for your body.

A fitted dress shirt is always an excellent choice. Buy from a department store where you can develop a relationship with a salesperson who will lead you in the right direction. If you have a long-term relationship with a salesperson, he or she will have an investment in finding fabulous outfits for you. And then you will have a fairy god-stylist—like me—all to yourself!

Below the belt

Details also matter in the areas that your date may or may not see. Boxers are hot! And by “boxers” I mean the guys with gloves. But I’m really going to go with boxer-briefs because they’re comfortable, plus you get all the great bun-hugging qualities. If the date goes really well, it could be a bit weird or totally kill the moment if you’re wearing tighty-whities. No of- fense, boys.

Like I say in my book Off the Cuff, a lot of men think that to look slim, you have to wear all black. But by doing so you can end up looking dreary and pale. I say, stick with mono

chromatic solids for the top and the pants. A nice alternative to black is a chocolate brown, which is flattering on everyone, so pair a chocolate brown sweater with brown pants, or a navy turtleneck with navy pants. Just keep the top and the bottom the same color.

Also, it’s great to be in shape, but if you spend a lot of time at the gym, and you’re super pumped-up, remember: You shouldn’t have larger breasts than your date’s.

What not to wear

I don’t like to have too many no’s in my vocabulary, but ba- nana hammocks are always a fashion don’t. Also, say nay to really tight European thong swimsuits. And also never wear sandals with socks. You have to ask yourself, “What would Jesus do?” He would not wear the two together. And say no to gauchos and clogs. These are bad!

In terms of texture, the first rule is, never wear anything sheer. My motto is if it feels good, wear it. You can never have too much cashmere.

Any crazy jacquard is probably too much. All traditional menswear should be fine—but jazz it up with color. Work with accessories and color.

Feel good, look good

How you look on the outside tells the world how you feel on the inside. You carry your clothing with you everywhere, and it tells people what you’re about and who you are. It’s your uniform.

When you wear a great outfit, you feel confident, and con- fidence breeds success. And there’s nothing women find sexier than confidence.


How To Stop Smoking

Smoking is one of worst habit taken by almost all the people of this world. Smoking kills you slowly and also there are unthinkable diseases caused by smoking including Cancer. Stopping smoking is very rewarding not only for your health but also your money.

Smoking tobacco is both a psychological habit and a physical addiction. The act of smoking is ingrained as a daily ritual and, at the same time, the nicotine from cigarettes provides a temporary, and addictive, high. Eliminating that regular fix of nicotine will cause your body to experience physical withdrawal symptoms and cravings. To successfully quit smoking, you’ll need to address both the habit and the addiction by changing your behavior and dealing with nicotine withdrawal symptoms.

Managing unpleasant feelings such as stress, depression, loneliness, fear, and anxiety are some of the most common reasons why adults smoke. When you have a bad day, it can seem like cigarettes are your only friend. Smoking can temporarily make feelings such as sadness, stress, anxiety, depression, and boredom evaporate into thin air. As much comfort as cigarettes provide, though, it’s important to remember that there are healthier (and more effective) ways to keep unpleasant feelings in check. These may include exercising, meditating, using sensory relaxation strategies, and practicing simple breathing exercises.

Helpful tip to quit smoking

Throw out all cigarettes, ashtrays and lighters and anything else that might remind you of smoking.

Benefits of quitting

So, why quit? There are stacks of good reasons to quit smoking: Your health, your looks, your fitness and your finances, plus how you feel about yourself and the people around you.
Your health
The benefits of quitting start almost immediately, with noticeable improvements within the first 72 hours. Remember, the benefits are not just about your health, other benefits relate to your looks, finances and your friends and family.

• When you stop smoking, you reduce your risk of getting cancers of the mouth, throat, oesophagus, bladder, kidney and pancreas.
• Plus your body starts working better because your immune system gets stronger and helps your body fight infection and disease.
• There are some diseases that are irreversible – like emphysema, which destroys air sacs in your lungs. Once you’ve got it, you can’t get rid of it. But if you stop smoking in time, you can avoid it.

Time since quitting Health benefits

20 minutes                   Heart rate drops.

12 hours                      Blood levels of carbon monoxide drop dramatically.

72 hours               Sense of taste and smell improve.

2 weeks – 3months          Lung function and circulation improves.

1 – 9 months            Coughing and shortness of breath decrease

1 year           Risk of coronary heart disease is halved compared to continuing smokers.

5 years

Stroke risk is reduced to that of a non-smoker five to 15 years after quitting. Risk of cancers of the mouth, throat and  oesophagus decreases.

10 years

Risk of lung cancer death is about half that of a continuing smoker and continues to decline. Risk of cancers of the bladder, kidney and pancreas decreases.

15 years

Risk of coronary heart disease is the same as someone who has never smoked

Your looks and you
Smoking ages and wrinkles your skin. So when you quit, your skin looks younger and healthier. No smoking also means no more stains on your fingers and teeth, and you and your clothes won’t smell of smoke. Because your body’s healthier, your fitness level will improve and that helps keep you at a healthy weight. You’ll also feel great about yourself – not just because your appearance has improved, but because you’ve achieved something that’s really hard to do.

Your finances
Quit smoking, and you’ll have more money. With prices averaging around $15 for a packet of cigarettes, you could save
around $5,400 every year – that’s an overseas holiday, money towards a car, house or a shopping spree. In the long-term, if you saved at this rate for five years you would save around $27,000. Based on spending $15 per day on cigarettes, you can see the savings add up quickly.

Here is booklet just to help you quit smoking

Enemy #1: The Psychological Root of Addiction

Quite simply, the psychological addiction is something which has been developed over a period of time and consists of the habit of smoking the cigarettes and the illusions you have about how hard it is to quit and what smoking does for you.

Now defines an illusion as something that deceives by producing a false or misleading impression of reality. Truth is, almost every smoker I’ve ever known (including ME) has been brainwashed by at least a few of the illusions below. See how many of these seven illusions apply to you…

Illusion #1:It requires willpower to stop

No matter what you’ve been told – trying to stop smoking the hard way, the way that requires tons of effort, deprivation and will power, simply doesn’t work!

Why? Because willpower is battling against your own will and that’s a crazy way to try and stop smoking. The reality is only 3-5% of people who use this technique alone and go cold turkey end up successfully quitting for 12 months or longer. No wonder so many people throw their arms in the air out of despair and think:  forget it!

Illusion #2:  Smoking relaxes you and keeps away the anxiety

False. Actually, it’s scientifically impossible because nicotine actually speeds things up, so it certainly cannot relax you. But do you know why you feel that way? It’s because the moment you take your fix and the nicotine hits your brain, your drug levels rise right up. And since what goes up must come down – when your drug levels do begin to drop you begin to feel a level of anxiety and need the next cigarette to alleviate it.

The cigarettes are like a friend who gets you out of trouble once he has thrown you into the lion’s den… repeating the cycle over and over. Believe me… you can do without a friend like this and will be far more relaxed once you stop smoking.

Illusion #3: Smoking is enjoyable

This is just one of the things Elliott used to tell me to justify all the damage smoking had done to my health and my life. But the truth is I’ve never met a smoker who truly enjoys sucking tar and nicotine into their lungs. Given the choice, most of us would prefer to be spending time with our family, going out to dinner, fishing, catching up with our friends or doing other things which we love.

Take a moment and ask yourself:  what do you truly enjoy about smoking? Truth is, we have to tell ourselves how much we love it or it would seem strange to keep reaching for the next one.

Illusion #4: Smoking makes you feel confident

Confidence is defined by as a belief in oneself and one’s powers and abilities. So how exactly does the act of lighting a cigarette… moving it to and from our mouth… sucking in tar… and repeating the process over and over again make us more confident?

Truth is, it doesn’t. In fact, with smoking being banned in many public places WORLD WIDE, people don’t even consider it cool anymore.

Confidence already lives within you. It’s a model of behaviour inside your head. And you can control how much confidence you have using specific techniques Elliott will show you. But throw away the notion that cigarettes can help you boost your confidence. It’s a myth the tobacco companies started with their clever advertising and they are only too happy for you to continue to believe it.

Illusion #5:  You need something to do with your hands

You needed a pacifier/dummy once too. But you got over that… and you’ll get over this as well. Moving your hands is a habit associated with smoking. For instance, if you smoke 20 cigarettes a day, that’s 7,300 puffs a year and a heck of a lot of hand movements over 10 years (73,000).

But just like you reluctantly let go of your pacifier/dummy once, you can learn to live without those cigarettes and the hand movements too.

Illusion #6:  Smoking is a habit and therefore virtually impossible to break

Try this little exercise…

#1.  Fold your arms and notice which one you have on top.

#2.  Now fold them again.
If you’re like most people, you placed the same hand on top on the second time as you did on the first time. Now try something a little different and…

#3.  Fold your hands again with the opposite hand on top. So if your hands were…

Does it feel different? Kind of weird. Well, now…

#4.  Fold your arms in the opposite way over and over again.

And here’s what you’ll find. Eventually the ‘weird’ way of folding your arms will become a new habit. And the other way of folding your arms will seem strange. It really is very easy to break a habit. You just need to replace it with another habit.

Enemy #2:  The Physical Root of Addiction

The physical addiction to nicotine is a very real one. In fact, when you compare the addictiveness with common drugs, you can see exactly why the habit is so difficult to break…

  • Nasal amphetamine – 80%
  • Nasal cocaine – 71%
  • Caffeine – 70%
  • PCP – 57%
  • Marijuana – 22%
  • Ecstasy – 20%
  • Psilocybin – 19%
  • LSD – 16%
  • Mescaline – 15%
  • Nicotine – 99%
  • Smoked methamphetamine – 98%
  • Crack cocaine – 97%
  • Injected methamphetamine – 92%
  • Valium – 83%
  • Secanol – 82%
  • Alcohol – 81%
  • Heroin – 80%

Source: D Franklin, Health, 1990, 4, 38

As you can see, the physical addiction to smoking is very difficult to cut off from, and once your body has had nicotine in its system, it starts to adapt, thinking it’s simply a normal way of life. So as soon as you stop consuming nicotine, your body – which seeks equilibrium – sends a craving to your brain in an effort to get the nicotine which it considers normal.